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Thursday, June 9, 2022

New Book Alert: Lost to The Lake by Anna Willett; Psychological Thriller Peers At The Paranoia of a Fractured Marriage


 New Book Alert: Lost to The Lake by Anna Willett; Psychological Thriller Peers At The Paranoia of a Fractured Marriage

By Julie Sara Porter

Bookworm Reviews 


Spoilers: Anna Willet's The Family Man focused on a police officer investigating a snuff film created by a man living the guise of a decent family man and moral center of the community. It offers an outsider peering into that facade and exposing the dark truth underneath.

Her novel, Lost to the Lake, shows the insider perspective of what it is like to live in a family like that. It shows what happens during a chilling vacation when a married couple discovers that their spouses aren't all that they appeared to be. They are married to complete terrifying strangers who wear familiar faces.


Marty and Beth seem to have a perfect life together. He owns a thriving business in financial planning. They have a nice home and though childless, they have a loyal dog, Angel whom Beth loves and does upon. Everything seems okay until the night when two men break into their home and hold the couple hostage. Marty apparently "took something from (them)" and now they are here for payback.


The opening is very tense as the two struggle in the dark against their assailants. This also begins to open some subtle cracks in their marriage as Beth begins to see Marry, a man that usually takes charge and can be dependable, as a coward who may abandon her if given the chance and has certainly been keeping secrets from her.

The results are a seriously injured dog who needs veterinary attention and at least one of the intruders dead on the floor. Beth wants to call the police, but Marty refuses since Angel more than likely attacked the man in defense of his humans. Marty says that he is an innocent pawn and didn't know these men were criminals when he did business with him. He could be considered an accomplice

This could be enough evidence to have Marry arrested and Angel put down. The best thing then, Marty suggests, would be to bury the body and get out of town for awhile. Why he even booked a room at the White Mist Lake Retreat while Beth took Angel to the vet ("It will be like couple's therapy," Marty insists, after they drag the dead body into the trunk.) As for the other guy, well he ran off and as long as he doesn't know where they are going, he'll be out of sight and out of mind.


I have read many thrillers and mysteries set in Australia but none have taken advantage of the setting more than Willett has in Lost to the Lake. The White Mist Lake Retreat is one of those places in the middle of nowhere where you could just sense something sinister lurking behind every tree or in every cabin. It's perfect for a thriller or horror.


If your imagination and paranoia doesn't get you, nature will. Remember, this is set in the Australian Outback where there is a lot of land to bury somebody and you can be miles away from anyone who would take a glance. 

The Retreat being in this rural out of the way place and near a dark forbidding lake gives the novel a strong sense of abandonment. You could be left there and no one would find you for weeks, if they found you at all. 


This sense of abandonment carries over from the setting into Beth and Marty's marriage. As the book continues, Beth begins to see another side to Marty, one that up until now she tolerated. He is snappish, irritable, distant, and suspicious of her friendship with Craig, White Mist Lake's maintenance man. Marty tells lies on top of lies about the night of the break in and his actions afterwards to the point where Beth doesn't know if she can trust him.


It doesn't take long for Beth to review the early times of their marriage and realize that what she once thought of as protective is now controlling. 

When Marty was once daring and passionate, she now sees him as temperamental and abusive. What she saw as an intellectual analytical mind is now cold-blooded and arrogant. It takes the break in and their "vacation" for Beth to realize that she had been in an abusive relationship all along and never acknowledged it until now. Beth is not just in a state of physical abandonment from the setting around her but emotional abandonment from the one person that she thought that she could trust.


Lost to the Lake ironically gets lost towards the end after revelations are made and characters double and triple cross each other. The endings go on and on and perhaps a few chapters could be trimmed. This isn't a book that is strong on reveal and resolution, so much as it's strong on atmosphere and dissecting the marriage between the two main characters. 




Saturday, May 29, 2021

Weekly Reader: The View From Breast Pocket Mountain: A Memoir by Karen Hill Anton; Brilliant Touching Memoir About A Woman Searching For and Finding Her Purpose in Japan

 


Weekly Reader: The View From Breast Pocket Mountain: A Memoir by Karen Hill Anton; Brilliant Touching Memoir About A Woman Searching For and Finding Her Purpose in Japan

By Julie Sara Porter

Bookworm Reviews


Karen Hill Anton's memoir The View from Breast Pocket Mountain is. beautiful, brilliant, and touching memoir about an African-American woman who searches for her purpose and finds it in Japan.


Anton is like most memoirists, gifted with a good memory and the ability to captivate the senses and Reader's interests through the various scenarios in her colorful life. When she describes her childhood in Harlem with her two siblings and single father, her closeness to her father is sincerely felt. She remembers her institutionalized mother who had amnesia and couldn't always remember her children when they visited her in the institution in which she was placed.

 Anton also recalled how her father efficiently performed the duties of mother and father while giving his children basic lessons from home before starting school and giving his kids an appreciation for classical music and art. Because of his experience with a typewriter and having an encyclopedia knowledge, he was often called to draw up petitions and lead organizations. Anton's memories show him as a loving and strong willed  man who gave the gift of vast knowledge to his children.


Anton studied Art history and modern dance while living in Greenwich Village. She met figures like Joseph Heller, author of Catch 22. However, her real education came about during her various travels. At 19, she moved to London and hitchhiked through Europe. Travel changes a person's perspective and broadens their personal experiences. A telling moment occurs when Anton returns to New York City. Comparing it to the clean streets of Copenhagen, she asked why they were so dirty and was stunned when she was told that they had always been like this.  

In the United States and Europe, Anton became involved with the arts scene befriending various artists and musicians. She also met Don, an immature self-centered man. While Anton was a willing member of the Flower Power generation and was herself pretty free spirited, her relationship with Don showed that even the freest of spirits has their limits. Those limits are reached when someone constantly puts themselves and their partner in debt, when despite threats of homelessness and hunger they still won't at least try to look for work, and when one partner is saddled with a child while the other leaves. Don left Anton pregnant. She gave birth to her daughter, Nanao, in Denmark.


When some memoirists write, they could be considered name droppers. Anton on the other hand could be thought of as a place dropper. Many of her accounts are of her various travels and the experiences that she had are spread throughout the book. Shortly after Nanao was born, she and Anton lived in Switzerland where Anton worked as a cook. They then moved to a college town in Plainfield, Vermont where she worked as an administrative assistant and audited classes.

 It was also in Vermont where she deepened her relationship with Billy Anton, a friend that she had known since her high school days in New York City. They remained friends who shared books, ideals, and travels even though they were with other people. After Anton's separation from Don and Billy's divorce, the two became lovers. They eventually married and Billy adopted Nanao as his daughter. Billy led Anton on the adventure of a lifetime by being offered a job to teach at a dojo in Japan. Feeling a bit lost after the death of her father, Anton left her Plainfield job behind and she and Nano packed up and headed for Japan with Billy.


Some of the most interesting passages occur during Anton's road trip to Japan and her and her family's  lives in Japan. There are many moments where Anton felt out of place as a black woman in countries where she was in the minority. There is also a suspenseful passage which describes a near assault in the Middle East. The majority of the people that they met on their road trip were helpful and always ready with a bed, food, directions, or a break time to relax and talk while their children played.


Their arrival in Japan was originally fraught with tension as Billy worked as an instructor and Anton as a cook at a dojo that served more or less as a cult. Men, women, and children were separated and Yoshida, the sensei, resorted to physical abuse. The final straw for Anton and her family was during Christmas during a party when they saw a staff member bruised and bloody after an encounter with Yoshida. Worried that could happen to each other or Nanao, Anton and her family decided to leave the dojo. They eventually settled in a rural farming village on Breast Pocket Mountain.

The Anton Family's time on Breast Pocket Mountain has the typical moments of an outsider trying to adjust to a new life by growing used to the customs, learning the language, and getting used to the hard work living on a farm entails. But it is nice to read that Anton and her family finally felt secure and at home with new friends, beautiful landscape, and a place to raise Nanao and their three younger children: Mine, Mario, and Lila. Billy taught English while Anton studied calligraphy and wrote columns for the Japan Times and Chunichi Shimbun. They went through a realistic period of isolation,  marriage counseling, and considering separation or divorce. However, they are still married and still live at Breast Pocket Mountain.


The View from Breast Pocket Mountain is a good book that reminds Readers that they can find home anywhere, even if it's far from the country in which they were born.








Saturday, March 20, 2021

Weekly Reader: Rosemary for Remembrance by Nikki Broadwell; Dark War-Torn Reincarnation Novel Reveals Struggles, Conflicts, and Love Lasts Through The Centuries



 Weekly Reader: Rosemary for Remembrance by Nikki Broadwell; Dark War-Torn Reincarnation Novel Reveals Struggles, Conflicts, and Love Lasts Through The Centuries

By Julie Sara Porter

Bookworm Reviews


Spoilers: In a strange bit of coincidence, Nikki Broadwell's Rosemary for Remembrance is the second book that I am reviewing in a row that has a theme of reincarnation. While the two books tell a somewhat similar story of lovers discovering that they were together in one lifetime and are in love again in the present, they couldn't be more different in their approach. Amelie Pimont's Canvas of Time is a beautiful novel of lovers torn apart in different life times and realizing that they were always fated to be together. It is idyllic and dream-like as they rediscover each other time and again and are able to go through their differences by realizing that they are meant to be.

 Rosemary for Remembrance takes a far darker approach to the idea. This book seems to say that "Yes you were together and you will be together again. You will get that and all that comes with it: including the arguments, conflicts, separations, stress that you had before and get to relive it again in another life. Oh yeah and you may not have been happy the first time or this time either."

I don't want to say one is inherently better than the other, just that they certainly make you think different things about the idea of reincarnation and whether you want to spend more than one lifetime with a person.


We first encounter Rosemary and Dylan Hughes in 1957, right as they are planning to divorce. Rosemary's father has just died and the estranged couple are going through his estate. There are some hints as to the reasons behind their separation: presumed infidelity, different lifestyles, PTSD from WWII, Rosemary gaining independence, take your pick. As if that's not enough, Rosemary has waking dreams and visions of a woman in the 19th century named Rebecca and her husband, Edgar. A further twist occurs when Dylan confesses that since he came back from the war, he has had similar but foggy dreams of the same  couple. The book fills into the Hughes' meeting, at times tempestuous marriage, their wartime experiences, separation, and the strange connection that they have to Rebecca and Edgar  revealing that they were once them in a former life.


Rosemary for Remembrance could be considered an anti-Romance novel or maybe not so much anti-Romance as it is a realistic novel about the struggles that romance and marriage can bring. After all the books I read these two months where marriage is the be all and end all (and a couple of books where it shouldn't be), this and The Second Mrs. Thistlewood are the most thought provoking, troubling, and in some ways the best. Even Canvas of Time is lost in a haze of romantic fantasy, even more so by suggesting that love can outlast a life span and be reborn if two souls are meant for each other. Rosemary for Remembrance and The Second Mrs. Thistlewood pull the same trick that George Eliot did with Middlemarch: deconstruct a love story by getting the courtship and marriage out of the way early to give us the troubled disillusionment that occurs once the ``I Do's" have been said and the honeymoon's over. It also helps since we already know that Rosemary and Dylan are bound to be separated, even their early marital bliss is tempered with the cynicism in knowing that this marriage may not survive.


Broadwell one ups Dionne Hayes, author of The Second Mrs. Thistlewood on one aspect. Hayes shows what happens when an innocent woman is married to an abusive jerk, so all the unhappiness in the marriage is caused by one spouse who is justifiably punished for it. Broadwell's book shows that the Hughes' unhappiness is spread equally between both parties. 

It's like reading about a celebrity divorce and siding with one party. Then you hear something else that makes you turn to the other side. After awhile, you think both parties are nuts and you are left hoping that they either break up permanently and move to opposite sides of the planet so they don't come anywhere near each other or realize that they are the only people crazy and stubborn enough to put up with each other, get back together, and leave the rest of us alone.


To her credit, Broadwell captures both Rosemary and Dylan rather well so their marriage is not an "either or" situation of hopeless neurotics who can't live with or without each other and make everyone else miserable in the process. They are two people who like and want different things, spend much of their time separated, and never really take the opportunity to talk out their issues.

We see some of their incompatibility begin the moment their marriage does. Dylan is a military captain hoping to marry into a wealthy family so he could move up a few notches in Washington society. Rosemary is from a wealthy family but is starting to regret the privileges that her wealth provides. She would rather take art classes than attend functions with the other officer's wives.


We also experience Rosemary suffering from the isolation when she and Dylan are assigned to the Philippines. Despite the heat, mosquitoes, and constant chit chat with the officer's wives, Rosemary gets her first real moments to shine. She learns more about the world by befriending a Filipino woman, rekindles her passion for Dylan (particularly during monsoon season), and begins to take her painting seriously.

In fact Rosemary's painting is what keeps her active and going when she returns to the States and Dylan remains to fight in the Pacific Theater. She sells her art and begins to enjoy an independent life in the country. True, she worries about Dylan and is pestered by dreams about Rebecca and Edgar. But for the first time, she is not bound by a father or husband and she likes it. When Dylan returns, he feels out of place with the New Woman that his wife has become and wants her to return to the life of an obedient military wife.


However through Dylan's struggles, we realize that he is more than an old school social climbing military man. We experience his harrowing time on the Front and as a POW. We understand why it's difficult for him to return to a life that has gone on without him, a life that he is uncertain that he wants anymore. 

Dylan's time in the POW camp is the most gripping and most honest part of the book. His journal entries tell of forced marches, malaria, dysentery, and torture. Dylan is constantly surrounded by death and is torn between fearing his death and hoping for it. The prison chapters are extremely graphic and realistic depictions of war in the middle of a troubled romance and supernatural novel. There is a difference to these sections that highlight over the rest of the book and with good reason. 


According to the Introduction and Acknowledgement, Broadwell used her own father's journal entries of his POW experiences during WWII with only some slight name changes. In fact, the journal is what inspired her to write the novel in the first place. Surrounding the fictionalized version of her father's wartime experiences, she created a couple unlike her parents and built a supernatural romance around them. 

Dylan's time as a POW is intentionally a distraction from the rest of the book because of this real world genesis. It also gives a lot of motivation to Dylan's post war character as a man who is guarded and unwilling to recall the past. He wants to move ahead and not go back to that place.


As compelling and troubling as Rosemary and Dylan's marriage is, Rebecca and Edgar's is even more so. The two are surrounded by societal pressure and frequent separation but their incompatibility is never breached. Instead it gets wider as Edgar has an affair and fathers a child and Rebecca is later institutionalized. Unlike Pimont's Eli and Sarah, this is a couple that are not destined to be soulmates. It's not the love that lasts beyond their deaths, it's their struggles and conflicts. Those are what haunt Dylan and Rosemary, along with the troubles that they have within their own marriage.


The final third of the book that covers the aftermath of Rosemary's father's death goes in some odd directions like introducing some characters who add further complications and could have used stronger introductions (particularly one who also shares the past life with Rebecca and Edgar). It also veers towards a happy ever after with a vengeance or at least a "let's work things out" conclusion. It is kind of difficult to picture Rosemary and Dylan having a subsequent happy reunion with so many problems hanging over their heads. (In fact the book gives several good reasons why they shouldn't be.) 

One could say that they recognize the fractures within their marriage and are determined not to explode the way Rebecca and Edgar did. It could also suggest not happy ever after and end of conflict forever but conversation and compromise. Recognizing their own difficulties and strengths are what help Rosemary and Dylan exorcise Rebecca and Edgar's torments once and for all.


Rosemary for Remembrance is a dark  supernatural romance, one that doesn't gloss over troubles then or now. Instead, it forces characters to confront them head on as individuals before they can confront them and become a couple.




Saturday, March 13, 2021

Weekly Reader: Energy of Love: A How-To Program To Self-Empowerment and Self-Love by Susan J. Witt; A Lovely Journey Towards Self-Love



 Weekly Reader: Energy of Love: A How-To Program To Self-Empowerment and Self-Love by Susan J. Witt; A Lovely Journey Towards Self-Love

By Julie Sara Porter

Bookworm Reviews


Sometimes when we are busy and stressed out, we don't take as much time as we should for ourselves. These days with the pandemic, an economic crisis, socio political unrest, family and professional demand, it's hard to do that. But it is needed more than ever. It is important to recognize self-love and to empower our own souls and spirits. 

Susan J. Witt's book, Energy of Love: A How-To Program To Self-Empowerment and Self-Love is a lovely guide that helps the Reader take that much needed time to recognize and treat oneself.


The book operates on the theory of quantum mechanics that everything, even our own thoughts, run on energy frequency. The concepts that Witt introduces on Energy of Love help activate and improve your energy. Witt compares her book to a study,  a study which shows that the heart, like the brain, can "think and be measured as 'wave frequency. Witt writes, "This study has changed the way that we think of our physical and eludes us to a great powerful force within its heart center. It is this profound truth that gives us the baseline and knowledge of how one's life."


Witt's book takes both a scientific and metaphysical approach to the concept of energy and Self-Love showing that in many cases, the terms are closer than believed.

In fact, two chapters discuss energy in scientific and spiritual terms. In one chapter Witt discusses how energy and matter make up the universe. "Energy can change matter," Witt writes. "The amount of energy expelled can cause things to happen or change…..(Energy) can never be created or destroyed. It can only be changed." 

Witt uses Dr. Masaru Emoto's provocative and controversial studies of water crystals changing according to thoughts and words. Emoto's study itself has been under strict scrutiny (especially his claim about the power of positive thinking improving polluted water which Witt sidesteps in her summary.). Witt's book shows that the Universe is ever changing and what we believe about it and our bodies is a constantly evolving and learning experience. This experience can contribute to our awareness of ourselves,our bodies, and our emotions.

The spiritual chapter defines the body's energy particularly by the chakras, the seven energy vortices that lie within our body from the base of our spine to our head. Each of the chakras is associated with certain thought patterns or issues from basic material survival to knowledge and conscious thought. Sometimes a certain problem will affect the part of the body in question. For example if someone is going through a bad breakup, they may feel physical pain near the heart center. (There's a reason it's called heartache or heartbreak.) That may be the chakra out of alignment because of the issues affecting it. 

Neither the scientific nor the spiritual chapters provide concrete answers, but most books of this type are not supposed to. Instead they use different interpretations to define energy. Neither are right or wrong, they are just different words.


 The chapter called "Analyzing Your Thoughts: The Energy of Thoughts" discusses neuroplasticity, this process of changing our thought patterns. This identifies the changes in our brain physically and functionally based on our life habits."

Witt writes that neuroplasticity is responsible for how we change our thought patterns and why depressive thoughts continue to linger 

long after something troubling happens. On the same token, they also allow more positive thoughts to reflect after something happens when we feel good about ourselves. The trick that Witt writes is that the stronger that a neuron connection lasts, the stronger that real connection lasts. Witt's book offers ways that we can express that love within ourselves, so we don't always have to depend on outside stimulus to keep happy. We can do daily things that help change our outlook and improve our neuroplasticity.


Many of the chapters offer different things that help contribute to changing one's thought process. Many of them like Affirmations and Mindfulness can be found in various books of this type so technically Witt isn't telling us anything new. However, they go along with the ideal of taking the time to do good things for yourself. 

For example the chapter on affirmations reveals that these words reflect the willing power to change. When someone makes a mistake and thinks "I'm so stupid! I can't do anything right," the person could instead focus on the areas in their life that they can do or better yet ways to improve that specific event should it happen again. 

The more that a person says their affirmations, then the more that they believe.


The book also allows the Readers to improve their relationships with others not just themselves. The chapter on forgiveness asks that the Reader think about someone who wronged them in the past and learn to release that anger, find forgiveness for that wrong, and move on. The fact that the forgiveness meditation takes more than one day within the text reveals that forgiveness is not a quick and easy fix. Forgiveness is something that can take awhile to feel but allows the person doing the forgiving and the one who needs it the chance to adapt and evolve.


There are plenty of activities within the book that allow the Reader to become an active participant not just a Reader. The chapter on meditation is a several day process. First the Reader is encouraged to pay attention to their breathing and allow their mind to wander,investigating where it wandered to, when, and what their thoughts were before and after the wandering. For example, if someone is breathing and their stomach growls, they may think of food rather than their breath. 

Another step involves doing simple mundane activities like brushing one's teeth or reading a book and concentrating only on that activity. They can focus on the present and what they are doing and nothing else. 

Once that process is mastered, the meditation then is increased to ten to twenty minutes focusing on their breath and bigger thoughts, perhaps creating a calming visualization to guide the meditator to a peaceful mental image. Of course the Reader is encouraged to write these things down to capture what they learned and observed from this experience. For example a person might visualize that they are in a peaceful field when a figure appears. They are then encouraged to write about the figure, how they made them feel, anything significant about them, or any message that they may have to give.


Energy of Love is a beautiful ongoing process that gives the Readers a few much needed moments a day in which they can learn about and love themselves. To quote a popular song "learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all."*


*Lyrics to "The Greatest Love of All," Songwriters: Linda Creed/Michael Masser. All Rights Reserved.



Sunday, February 21, 2021

New Book Alert: The Second Mrs. Thistlewood by Dionne Haynes; Memorable Regency Historical Fiction Reveals A Woman's Struggle To Leave An Abusive Marriage

 


New Book Alert: The Second Mrs. Thistlewood by Dionne Haynes; Memorable Regency Historical Fiction Reveals A Woman's Struggle To Leave An Abusive Marriage

By Julie Sara Porter

Bookworm Reviews


Spoilers: When I first received Dionne Haynes' novel The Second Mrs. Thistlewood, I often mistakenly referred to it as The Second Mrs. DeWinter, in reference to the unnamed narrator and protagonist of Daphne Du Maurier's classic female Gothic novel, Rebecca. Until I read the book, it did not occur to me how right I was. 

The Second Mrs. Thistlewood invokes the spirit of Gothic authors of the past like DuMaurier and The Bronte Sisters. It has the creepy isolated home, the dark brooding male character with a previous marriage, and the naive heroine with very passionate feelings towards him. However, it does so with a modern 21st sensibility that reveals that if you marry a Heathcliff, Edward Rochester, or Maxim De Winter, don't expect to be treated well.


The plot focuses on six years between 1814-1820 during the unhappy marriage of Arthur and Susan Thistlewood. His first wife died leaving him with a son, Julian. Susan remembers that during their early courtship, Arthur was kind and loving. He seemed to be a good fit and her father heartily approved of the marriage. Unfortunately, Arthur has steadily lost money because of the gambling tables. Now he spends his days drinking, plotting to revolt against and kill the king, and beat and belittle his wife.


We are spared flashbacks of their early meeting and courtship, showing when they were younger, in love, and Susan was blind to his temperament. Normally I would question that and yes it would show the abusive marriages don't always start out that way. Arthur's abuse would have caught the Reader off guard as much as it would have Susan. However, it is also right that she did not do this.

This approach is sort of like if Emily Bronte had ignored the first half of Wuthering Heights that explored the origins of Catherine and Heathcliff's tempestuous passionate romance and just focused on the middle part that explored how miserable Heathcliff made the people around him including his wife, Isabelle and son, Linton. As one of the few people who have made my dislike of Wuthering Heights clear, I approve of this approach.


Haynes clearly did not want to fall into the trap that happened with many Gothic authors. She did not want to make her brooding male character a misunderstood Byronic complex antihero that perversely attracted female, and a few male and nonbinary, Readers. She wanted the Readers to dislike Arthur as much as Susan does. (Unfortunately considering how many fans Edward Cullen and Christian Grey have and the strange nature of attraction that Readers have towards certain characters, Hayes's intentions may do the opposite and cause Arthur Thistlewood to have fans among his Readers. Thankfully, I am not one of them.)


Arthur is a true monster. He hits Susan when she does not obey him. He makes a habit of denying her even the basic comforts such as building a fire to "save on money" but then orders her to buy a fancy dress when they go to drop Julian off at boarding school so they can put on airs of pretense. He practically flaunts his affair with a maid over Susan's head but questions her whereabouts and when she receives packages of books. When Susan gets a job at a dressmaker's shop, Arthur helps himself to her earnings. 

Even his seemingly altruistic traits such as challenging the English class system and defending the rights of the poor are under suspect. He seems less willing to help others, after all he doesn't care much about his wife, son, or the people around him, than he is excited about the prospect of starting a violent revolution. He has a sadistic bloodthirsty nature that isn't just satisfied with inflicting pain. He wants to inflict it on others including the King, and appears to use the class struggles as an excuse to do so.


By contrast Susan is much more developed and a stronger character. She knows that she is in a loveless marriage and English Divorce Laws at the time will not allow her to leave unless for reasons of adultery. She waits in anticipation as Arthur manipulates his way out of being officially caught with the maid. When Arthur's political interests become violent, Susan plays the loyal and loving wife, never letting him know that she prays for an arrest and long prison sentence. There are times when she is stuck in the same situation hoping that she will be free from her unhappy marriage only to be disappointed when he reappears to hurt her once more. However, these chapters show the draconian claustrophobic atmosphere many women were caught in at the time where they could do very little to change their marital status, even if they are being physically and psychologically abused by their husbands.


However, Susan shows quite a bit of strength and resolve despite her unhappiness. Unlike Arthur who makes a lot of noise about caring for the poor, Susan actually does. She befriends and cares for Anna, an emigre from France who is victimized by anti-French sentiment after the Napoleonic Wars. Susan also perseveres working at the dress shop to the point that she develops a talent for designing clothes which she visualizes opening her own shop one day. She saves and hoards money so that she can be financially secure in case Arthur ever does leave her life. She also shows a maternal side towards Julian wanting to become a more loving influence towards him rather than his cruel father.

Susan also mentally escapes her situation by reading, particularly the works of Jane Austen and poetry. It is during a trip to the bookstore that she encounters William Westcott, a Bow Street Runner, who is investigating Arthur's violent insurrection connections. Susan and William exchange a love of books and develop a friendship that grows into a romance when Susan realizes what a sweet man William actually is, unlike her husband. 


The Gothic novel that The Second Mrs. Thistlewood most resembles is not Rebecca or Wuthering Heights or even Jane Eyre, a classic that is just as much a landmark of feminist novels as it is of Gothic Literature. It is most similar to The Tenant of Wildfell Hall by Anne Bronte.  

In both, we get women trapped in unhappy abusive marriages that resort to using subterranean means like practicing their talents in secret so they can hone them into a career and hiding money for security in absence of their husbands. They eventually achieve independence and discover love with much better and more understanding men. However, Tennant also explores Bronte's devotion to Christian doctrine by having her protagonist, Helen Graham Huntington forgive her husband, Arthur before he dies. That may have pleased Readers then or revealed Christian charity, but that is not what Susan Thistlewood is looking for. 


Instead Susan Thistlewood is looking for a life for herself, one where she doesn't have to the nameless unimportant Second Mrs. Thistlewood, abused and forced to be subservient to her husband. She longs for a life for herself, where she can become Susan, a strong independent woman with friends, family, and real love.

Tuesday, July 28, 2020

New Book Alert: Light of Hope by S.T. Collins; Inspirational, But At Times Questionable Book About Survival After Domestic Abuse



New Book Alert: Light of Hope by S.T. Collins; Inspirational, But At Times Questionable Book About Survival After Domestic Abuse

By Julie Sara Porter

Bookworm Reviews


Spoilers: S.T. Collins's novel, Light of Hope is about people going through a difficult time as survivors of domestic abuse. It also covers the organizations and people that help them get back on their feet and look for new careers, homes, and lives beyond the abuse. Collins succeeds, sometimes.

This book is hopeful and inspirational because it proves that abuse isn't the end of the story. That there are many brave kind people helping survivors get ahead in life, many of whom had been abused themselves. This book captures the brave and kind characters that work in such an institution.

However, the characters make some questionable decisions and do impulsive things that put themselves and others in danger. While their goals and the work they do is admirable, sometimes they behave very foolishly and recklessly. They could use some therapy themselves before they even think about helping others.


The protagonist is Vikki Nelson, a divorcee who suffered from two unhappy previous marriages. Her first marriage ended because her husband had an affair with a friend. Her second marriage, after a long time of psychological and emotional abuse. She is currently staying with her sister, Lily a nurse and single mother who ended a physically abusive marriage. The two sisters depend on each other for strength and support.


Vikki intends to better her life. After receiving a Bachelor's degree in Social Work and working as a waitress, she is interviewed by Robert Cuccio, Director of Light of Hope, a shelter that helps economically disadvantaged women receive public assistance and new jobs. Many of these women heve been abused by husbands and boyfriends. They are afraid and suffer from low self-esteem, so they need someone to help walk them through the process of economic and personal independence. Vikki passes her interview and receives the job as caseworker at Light of Hope.


Vikki does very well at the job. She befriends her colleagues, particularly Rhonda, a saucy case manager who also has relationship troubles. She takes charge of many important projects such as a job fair and bonds with many of her clients like Nikoleta Janovic, a Bosnian immigrant with two children and a stalker ex-boyfriend.


In her personal life, Vikki is able to use what she learned from Light of Hope to help and encourage Lily. We also get peeks into hers and Lily's unhappy marriages and why they led them to the choices they made and the lives that they now lead.

Vikki emerges as a strong character, because of her genuine concern and willingness to help others. As someone who had been in that situation, she wants to be a guide for other women.

The work that the characters at Light of Hope do is beyond admirable. They help these woman move themselves forward from their pain and see possibilities. They are good characters, but unfortunately they make many bad decisions that produce quite a few plot holes and would be questionable in real life situations.


Vikki comes to care about Nikoleta and wants to protect her from her absuive stalker ex so she invites her to stay at Lily's house! First, it wasn't her place to make that decision (though Lily does agree to it.) Second, because of Nikoleta's ex being a stalker, she is putting Nikoleta, her family, Lily, Lily's son, and Vikki herself in danger. Third, why not check her into a battered women's shelter? The option isn't even addressed. They purposely don't reveal their addresses so people can't find them and they have better protection in case they do! Fourth, it doesn't work out anyway because Lily's son and Nikoleta's oldest daughter are two hormonal teenagers and are caught making out by Lily. (That was a factor that should have gone into consideration.) While it shows Vikki's concern, sometimes her thoughtless impulsiveness comes through much clearer. This is one of those times.


Another irritating plot point is Robert and Vikki's romantic relationship. At first, Robert seems like a nice guy, dedicated to helping others, willing to offer advice, and cares about his employees and clients. But then the farther the book goes, the more that there seems like something is..off about him. He has a tendency to be everywhere that Vikki goes. While,Vikki does a good job he promotes her really quickly as if to ensure that they have plenty of alone time. It's not a surprise when he and Vikki have a sexual relationship.

I don't really blame Vikki for this relationship. He is good looking, but there's more than that. Vikki has been through two unhappy marriages. Her emotions are off-kilter. It is easy to look for love and romance with the first man who has ever been nice to her, especially when he recognizes her talent.

The one who is questionable in their behavior is Robert. He is a director of a shelter that helps troubled women. He should be able to recognize the signs of a woman going through a troubled personal life. Also, he is in a position of power and should put the brakes on a workplace relationship.

Besides that even after they get together, he behaves in a way that throws some red flags. When they eat out at restaurants, he orders for both of them (an early sign of controlling behavior.). He makes eyes at a pretty waitress but becomes jealous when Vikki speaks to an old friend. When Vikki want to cool off the relationship,Robert openly promotes one of the other female co-workers to accompany him on a trip instead of Vikki. It's not good when the director of a shelter helping troubled women exhibits abusive controlling behavior himself.

I look at these issues with the plot and I wonder if they were intended to move the plot along. They were there for the sake of a novel rather than making any actual sense. I can't help but wonder if Light of Hope might have fared better as a nonfiction book exploring these type of shelters and what they do to help women. Maybe also offering cases of people who had survived abusive situations. Of course confidentiality is an issue with these stories, but Collins could use pseudonyms.

Light of Hope is an encouraging book that tells the Readers that life after abuse is possible. But, as a novel it dims really quickly.


Sunday, March 29, 2020

Classics Corner: The Women's Room by Marilyn French; The Troubled Lives of Women in the Mid-20th Century



Classics Corner: The Women's Room by Marilyn French; The Troubled Lives of Women in the Mid 20th Century

By Julie Sara Porter

Bookworm Reviews


PopSugar Reading Challenge: A book published the month of your birthday (February, 1977)

Spoilers: Marilyn French's novel, The Women's Room, could best be summarized as Feminine Mystique: The Novel.

Betty Friedan's 1964 landmark book, The Feminine Mystique is considered the book that kick-started the second wave of Feminism. It laid out the problems that many women had when they married young, had children, and settled into lives as stay at home mothers. Friedan wrote about the "Problem That Has No Name," women who were bored, listless, and unfulfilled with their lives. They had education, but no idea what to do with it and were unable or unwilling to use it for a career or to find a life outside the home. Many of these women developed physical, psychological, and emotional disorders and used alcoholism, drug addiction, and sexual gratification as means to cope with that dissatisfaction. Friedan's book received criticism, but many women read, understood, and related to that situation. Enough to create a movement.

If The Feminine Mystique described the problem and offered potential solutions, then The Women's Room is the case study, albeit a fictional case study. However, French graphically illustrated what happened to these women as they moved from giggly schoolgirls and conformist housewives of the 1950's and early '60's to divorcees, single mothers, and feminist activists of the late '60's and '70's.

The Women's Room focuses on Mira Ward. When we first meet her, it is 1968 and she is hiding in the Ladies' restroom at the college where she is taking classes. However, it has gone through a change like everything and everybody around her. French tells us, "She called (the Ladies' room) that even though someone had scratched out the word 'ladies' in the sign on the door and written 'women's' underneath. She called it that out of thirty-eight years of habit, and until she saw the cross-out on the door, had never thought about it. 'Ladies room' was a euphemism, she supposed, and she disliked euphemisms on principle."

This book is about women like Mira who argued and challenged being called "ladies" and all that the word implies ("young ladies", "proper ladies," sophisticated ladies who dress nicely, behave properly, and don't question society's standards) to being called "women." ("Wonder Woman,", "career women," women who fight for equal rights, careers, and the rights to being treated as equally to men.)

Mira is a product of a post-WWII upper-middle class upbringing, the type of upbringing that expected her to only have an advantageous marriage. All of her education and training, primarily from her mother, was made for that specific goal. However, Mira starts out life independent. She reads books by people like Nietzsche and Radclyffe Hall that are considered forbidden and asks important questions about sex, religion, and politics. At first, she tries to be independent. She doesn't want to be someone's secretary. She would rather have the adventures and be the boss. When she becomes involved with a boy, Lanny, she imagines herself scrubbing the kitchen floor with a baby crying in the background.

After she and Lanny break up, Mira begins dating Norm, a medical student. When she and Norm get married, Mira can feel her own life and independence slipping away. She suggests teaching and ultimately getting a Ph.D. in English Literature. Norm scoffs at the idea, thinking that she wouldn't have time what with taking care of the house, cooking meals, and raising the children. (It never occurs to him to share the household tasks. When she suggests this, it is clear that he thinks the very idea is repellant.) The picture of Mira's dependence becomes clearer and more haunting when after she gives birth to two children, Normie Jr. and Clark, Mira finds herself scrubbing the floor with crying children in the background, exactly like she feared.

Some of the hardest chapters to read are the ones that not only peer into Mira and Norm's troubled married life, but the troubled lives of all of the married couples that surround them. The Feminine Mystique doesn't just hit them, it hits everyone around them. Natalie is jealous when her husband, Hamp starts making eyes at the other women in their circle. Adele has a bad temper that constantly yells at her children and worries when she is pregnant with another. Bliss is engaged in an affair with her best friend's husband. Martha is taking night school courses and becomes involved with a French teacher. Sean and Oriane move to the Bahamas where Sean abandons her, leaving her broke and ill from cancer. Samantha and Simp end up financially stranded after Simp loses his job. The most troubling story is that of Lily, who is abused by her bullying husband and budding sociopathic son into a mental breakdown. Lily moves in and out of psychiatric care and constantly receives electroconvulsive therapy, shock treatments.

What of our main couple, Mira and Norm? Norm subjects his wife to verbal abuse and is judgemental towards his wife and her friends. He neglects his children. One night, he drops a bombshell on Mira when he tells her that he wants a divorce. (The reason is never specified, but is implied that Norm is leaving her for another woman, a woman whom he later marries.) During their separation, a devestated Mira attempts suicide by slashing her wrists only to be rescued by Martha.


This book illustrates the problems that women have with the institution of marriage. The female characters are more three dimensional than the males. They are flawed hurt characters who are desperate for happiness and are instead miserable. The men are flatter, more cardboard, and more interchangeable. It makes sense when the Reader realizes that the book is exclusively told from the female point of view, from a first person female narrator who isn't revealed until the end of the book. It presents the world how she sees it.

In her eyes, men are the dominant force unknowable and powerful. The women around her are the ones who are suffering. The Narrator makes no apologies for how she writes. She challenges the idea of marriage itself and how it transforms people into someone that they don't want to be.
She also mentions how when books are written by men, they make the female characters flatter and less interesting as mothers, children, or love interests. They can't write about women, because they can't get into their heads. (Though she cited that there were exceptions like Henry James.) In retaliation, the Narrator portrays the male characters from her outside perspective because she can't get into their heads.


After the divorce, Mira finds her life completely different. She finds the life that she once wanted. The first taste of freedom is felt when she gives Norm a bill, itemizing all of the work that she did for him all of those years. Even though Norm refuses to pay, she makes her point clear that she is becoming aware of her own mind and desires.

Mira has more freedom to further her education by taking English Literature courses in college. She becomes involved in a sexual relationship with Ben, another student, and meets some wild new friends that navigate her into the Women's Movement and living life on her own terms.


That's not to say that her and her friend's lives are problem free. Isolde, a lesbian, goes from one troubled relationship to another particularly with women who are afraid to take their romance with her to another level. Val, the leader of this group of feminists, wants to start her own women-only separatist community, but seeks vengeance when her beloved daughter, Chris, is raped.

But what differs between these women and the ones before is how they deal with their problems. The women that Mira knew during her marriage are more internal. They are unable to express their discomfort. Their only ways they can challenge their unhappiness is to act upon their frustrations and neuroses. They are so dependent on their husbands, that they can no longer become the agents of change. When that dependence is removed, the Marthas, the Samanthas, the Blisses, and the Lilies don't know what to do with themselves.

The Isoldes, the Vals, and the Chrises are the agents of change. Many of them are divorced or purposely unmarried, so they rely only on themselves. If something goes wrong in their lives, they seek to change it through action. They go through emotional break ups, sexual explorations, and class and work overload but are able act on their own. Part of independence is dealing with the positive and negative aspects of living your own life, becoming aware of your own emotions, and making your own decisions. It is an independence that is won because it is earned

Mira in particular, loves her new found and hard won independence. She enjoys it so much that she turns down Ben's marriage proposal knowing that she will end up with more of the same, another stifling crippling married life of dependence. In the end, Mira realizes that she has achieved the fulfillment that she long ago wanted by herself.

The Women's Room covers that dramatic moment when women challenged their right to be thought of as independent people who should receive equal rights and protection under the law and society. It showed that time when they stopped thinking of themselves as girls and ladies and started thinking of themselves as women.



Thursday, February 20, 2020

Classics Corner: Heartburn by Nora Ephron; Perfect Combination of Love and Food With Plenty of Sarcasm on the Side



Classics Corner: Heartburn by Nora Ephron; Perfect Combination of Love and Food With Plenty of Sarcasm On The Side

By Julie Sara Porter

Bookworm Reviews




PopSugar Reading Challenge: A book with a pink cover


Spoilers: One thing that Nora Ephron knew how to do was to make her Readers and Viewers laugh at relationships.

The Academy Award nominated screenwriter of such romantic comedies as When Harry Met Sally, Sleepless in Seattle, and Julie and Julia, Ephron was able to find the lighter situations behind the dating scene, mid-life crises, issues towards commitment, and marital strife. Many of her characters had their problems and conflicts, especially with loved ones, but they always faced them with a sharp wit that got them through their struggles. Much like their screenwriter.


By far one of her most personal works is Heartburn, a witty, dry, sometimes cynical look at the decline of a marriage. The book is based on Ephron's marriage to journalist, Carl Bernstein (of Watergate/Woodward and Bernstein/All the President's Men fame). Ephron treated her semifactual life the same way she treated her fictional: with a sarcastic wit that hid deep conflict and pain.


Rachel Samstadt is a cookbook author married to columnist, Mark Feldman. She is the mother of one child and is seven months pregnant with another. She thinks that she has a happy marriage until one day she discovers a book of kid's songs with a deeply personal, potentially romantic, message to Mark from a friend. After confronting Mark, he reveals the truth. He has been having an affair with this woman while his wife is pregnant.


This book is certainly a product of it's time when people were interested in self-reflection, when women questioned their place in work and home, and where divorce is a huge concern. Rachel still has a toe in the old world in her thoughts towards marriage. She wants to work on her marriage to Mark and is unable to accept that it's over. She spends a majority of the book writhing in agony and indecision knowing that she should let go, but unable to. When her therapist, Vera, tells her that Mark was the one who is to blame for her feelings of anger, hurt, and betrayal, Rachel disagrees. "It's my fault," she wails, "I chose him."


Besides this marriage, Rachel also recalls the early years of her and Mark's relationship, their troubled first marriages, and her parents's marriage trying to find an answer to why she turned out the way she did. Rachel's mother was a Hollywood agent who had a nervous breakdown. "We should have known my mother was crazy years before we did just because of the manical passion she brought to her lox and onions and eggs, but we didn't," Rachel said.

Her parents divorced and her mother remarried Mel, a man who literally thought he was God. Her father has an ongoing affair with Frances, who works at a paper company. "(Frances) has remained true to my father even though he keeps marrying other women and leaving her with nothing but commissions on his stationary orders," Rachel says.


She also recalls her first marriage to Charlie, who was a little too fond of hamsters and Mark's marriage to "the first Jewish Kimberly." These broken relationships contribute to Rachel's neuroses and help explain why she chooses to remain in such a toxic marriage. She doesn't want to be another unhappy marriage that ends in divorce. She wants to believe that Mark can change and that theirs will be the one happy marriage that remains.


This book is drenched with plenty of satire and sarcasm. Rachel is involved in group therapy, a trend in the '70's-'80's, where she and other members unload their neuroses and problems. During one of these sessions, a thief breaks in and robs the group members including stealing Rachel's wedding ring. When news breaks out about the robbery, Rachel's main concern is that she finally learned the other members's last names.

When she finds out about the affair, Rachel confronts Mark at his therapist only to learn that his mistress is also seeing the same therapist and is right there with him. "They were having a double session. At the family rate," Rachel fumes.


Since Rachel is a food author, Ephron inserted recipes in the text and not just as an aside in the index. Oh no, that's for amateurs. Ephron inserted the recipes into the action. Whenever, Rachel describes a particular dish, she adds the recipe on how to make it. The recipes are often in the strangest places.

In the hilarious climax, Rachel decides to make her unhappiness known with a key lime pie put, where else, in Mark's face. Right before the fatal throw, Ephron helpfully puts the recipe for key lime pie in parentheses, in case any Reader needs ammunition for their own arguments.

Besides revealing Rachel's writing style as someone who not only writes recipes but provides conversational anecdotes about how she discovered the recipes, the emphasis on cooking serves another purpose. It allows Rachel to maintain a domestic appearance.

She wants to be the perfect wife and mother who has food waiting on the table. She can control how many eggs can go into a pie and how long to stir a soup after boiling. If the recipe goes bad, she can always make something else. She realizes this as she thinks "I loved to cook, so I cooked. And then the cooking became the way of saying, I love you. And then cooking became the easy way of saying I love you. And then cooking became the only way of saying I love you."

Relationships aren't as easy as recipes. There are no simple steps to follow and no amount of mixing that will guarantee a satisfactory result. When a relationship ends, it takes a lot more than a new one to fully recover. Rachel has to learn that lesson right before she gets the pie.


Besides serving up food, Rachel serves up plenty of sarcasm. She is the type of person who is always quick with a comment or a joke trying to find something humorous in every situation. When a male friend suggests that he and Rachel should have an affair to get back at their cheating spouses, Rachel turns him down. "We would just huddle together, two little cuckolds in a storm, with nothing to hold us together but the urge to punish the two of them for breaking our hearts."

When she runs into Mark and his mistress, she isn't just irate about seeing him. She is furious because he is wearing a new blazer. She didn't realize that Mark and his new lover were in the "buying new clothes" phase. She spends the next few paragraphs meditating on the blazer rather than her marriage.


Above all, Heartburn is about self-reflection. Rachel learns that sometimes she resorts to humor and sarcasm to avoid how she really feels. She also realizes that she can't save a marriage that's doomed and that there's no shame in cutting herself off from the marriage. Learning this, allows Rachel to strengthen and adapt herself into a woman who can face life single rather than unhappily married.


Heartburn is one of Nora Ephron's best recipes for a broken heart. You take one teaspoon of infidelity. Add a dash of misery. Include two eggs worth of therapy and self-reflection. Add a dose of delicious recipes. Don't forget to mix with a hearty helping of wit and sarcasm. Preheat at 350. Let sit and savor after reading. Enjoy!

Monday, January 27, 2020

New Book Alert: Sympathetic People by Donna Baier Stein; Moving Emotional Stories Reveal Various Hidden Chambers of the Human Heart





New Book Alert: Sympathetic People by Donna Baier Stein; Moving Emotional Stories Reveal Various Hidden Chambers of the Human Heart




By Julie Sara Porter

Bookworm Reviews

PopSugar Reading Challenge: A book that you meant to read in 2019


Spoilers: Donna Baier Stein's anthology Sympathetic People is filled with love stories, but not love in the traditional sense. There are romances but the stories also involve love between friends, family members, or parents and children. Stein's writing explores love in many forms.

However, they should not be mistaken for happy ending stories where love conquers all. Instead the character's emotions often compel them to do reckless, obsessive, and sometimes hurtful things in the name of love or what they perceive as love. In fact, many of the stories feature conflicts between the character's individuality and personal needs against those of the objects of their affection.

Sympathetic People explores the depth of emotion found in the human heart and how love and hate can be the two strongest most similar emotions.

All of the stories are moving, emotional, and character driven. The best are the following:


Versions-This story explains where the title of the anthology comes from in a haunting opening paragraph that summarizes the theme carried out in each story. It says, "We are all sympathetic people. Individually or two by two. None of us has ever resisted a midnight call from a witch-held friend, sat while a pearl-haired senior stood in the aisle of a bus, or shoplifted anything but books and that was many years ago."

This story focuses on that concept of being sympathetic and caring to people even at the cost of one's own personal happiness. The Narrator is in her second comfortable marriage when she learns that her husband's first wife is coming to town and needs help finding a place to live.

The Narrator's internal conflict focuses on how people see others in different stages in their lives and how those perspectives shape how we always think of that person. The Narrator thinks of herself as the version that her first husband saw: the free spirited artist living below her means. She then remembers how her current husband sees her: as a wealthy matron flipping through catalogs and selecting furniture for her upscale home. Her kindness towards Nina is a way of reconciling the woman that she was in that desperate situation and the woman she is with the resources that she can use to help.

The Secret of Snakes-This story provides the Reader with a venomous racer snake as a symbol of the decline of a marriage. Arlene is snake sitting for her son while he is away at camp. Meanwhile, Arlene has to watch as her husband practically flaunts his affair with a younger assistant and Arlene contemplates an affair
of her own.

The racer snake becomes a symbol of Arlene's repression. As long as she is following the instructions, Arlene has control over the snake just as she does with her marriage. Unfortunately, human (and snake) nature can not always be bound by rules. In one violent encounter with the racer, Arlene's repression ends and she gives into the rage and passion that she kept hidden.


In Heraklion- An SNL sketch features a parody commercial in which people are encouraged to visit Italy but the pitch people remind you that the trip won't make you feel comfortable with your body. It won't give you marriage counseling and you may go hiking but the vacation to Italy will not turn you into a person who likes hiking. In other words, a vacation might be fun and relaxing, but you are still the same person and sometimes the problems and perception that you have follow you on your trip.

In her story, "In Heraklion", Stein gives us beautiful evocative description of Crete's sunny beaches, historic ruins, and locals who cater to tourists. However, she also gives us two women who are visiting Crete as one of them is recovering from a doomed relationship with a married man.

It's an interesting dichotomy comparing the pleasant setting with the confused and neurotic characters that inhabit it. The story suggests that emotions can't be denied and worries and frustrations will remain no matter how beautiful the scenery is.


Hindsight- This story carries irony in which a woman recalls a long friendship that she and her husband had with another couple that ended in betrayal and hurt feelings.

The friendship between the two couples is described with various small moments such as the two women getting to know one another while their husbands worked on their dissertations or an Independence Day party where the friends lit sparklers before all hell broke loose. The Reader also sees how the changing times of the 1960's-'70's affected the marriages as the Narrator's husband published his Civil War book and became absorbed in work and her friend, Jessie, became involved in feminist politics. Seeing the decline in Jessie's marriage, the Narrator does everything that she can to hold onto her husband.

Years later, the Narrator reflects on the choices that she, Jessie, and their husbands made and how they all ended up in the same place. In one final ironic twist, it becomes clear to the Reader, though maybe not to the Narrator, that her memories of Jessie are clearer and more pronounced that those of her husband and that she might miss Jessie more than she is willing to admit.


The Jewel Box- I must admit as a native St. Louisian, I get a delight whenever my city is mentioned and this is no exception. One of the reasons I love this story is because it shouts out to one of my favorite places: Forest Park, a place with many wonderful attractions. One is The Jewel Box. The Jewel Box is a greenhouse filled with the loveliest flowers. It is not very well known and doesn't receive near as much local attention as Forest Park's other attractions or the larger Missouri Botanical Gardens on Shaw Blvd. However, The Jewel Box is a sight to behold and one to remember.

This is the memory that Sarah tries to give to her ailing grandmother, Nini. As Nini lays in the hospital, Sarah fills her with childhood memories particularly the trip the duo took to St. Louis from Kansas City.

Sarah describes The Jewel Box exquisitely in beautiful terms such as "There were tropical trees, waterfalls, and fountains, and below us, golden pheasants and flamingos flashed among the bushes and streams. In the trees, there were scarlet Ibis. A touch pool with turtles and crayfish." Her descriptions of The Jewel Box create an image of a fairyland of childhood nostalgia that Sarah longs to reach with her grandmother. She wants Nini to hold onto the young woman that she was, but also wants to recapture the child that Sarah was if only through words.

Lovers #1-5 or Why I Hate Kenny Rogers-A first person narrator can make or break a short story and this case, surely makes it. A woman describes her past romantic relationships in an attempt to explain what happened last Sunday when she had sex for the first time in five years since her divorce.

The Narrator has a frank, rambling, funny way of describing her former lovers such as #1 who she refers to "as the first man (she) really fell in love with who turned out to be gay and killed himself." She uses that distinction in the strangest places such as when she describes him then suddenly remembered, oh yeah, he used to wear white tennis shoes. (As though his sexuality, suicide, and the white tennis shoes were somehow linked.)

A woman being so honest about her past sexual history might come across as victimized or provocative, but this woman's narration allows her to come across as blunt, world weary, and self-depreciating with a sardonic sense of humor that is aware of her shortcomings. She is aware that she is reducing these men to numbers instead of names, but she cautions that she doesn't hate these men, or any men for that matter. They were very nice, "but sometimes there's a gut reaction (she has) that can feel like hate, or the neighbor of it, like it did last Sunday."

As the Narrator recounts the various lovers over the years, she recalls how much she changed in her interactions about what she received from them and they got from her: #1: a sexless innocent friendship, #2: a quick passionate sexually charged fling, #3: a relationship based on intellectual quality and ideals, #4: an intense affair with a married man, and #5: the one she married that she considered her true love and not a fantasy but was rocked by personality disorders. They changed as she aged, her lovers representing herself in different stages of life.

The subtitle comes from an NPR interview where country/pop singer Kenny Rogers talked about his six previous marriages and said that he loved all of his wives. He also spoke of his politics and how he befriended Presidents on both sides of the political spectrum saying "that he loves concepts more than people." The Narrator fumes that she hates that attitude about certain men, but can't ignore how similar she is to Roger's words. Rogers reflects the worst things about herself and she knows it too. She too loves the concept of true love more than the men. She is aware that she has been in a cycle and that is hard for her to break free.

However, her encounter last Sunday with Randy, (not #6, significantly he has a name), suggests that she is ready to get past her rocky romantic past and finally have a lasting committed relationship.
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Sympathetic People is a beautiful anthology that causes the Reader to look inside the human heart. Some of what they find might be painful, some pleasing, but always memorable.

Saturday, October 19, 2019

Classics Corner: Vanity Fair by William Makepeace Thackeray; Thackeray’s Satire of Ambition and Vanity Starring One of the Best Anti-Heroines from English Literature



Classics Corner: Vanity Fair by William Makepeace Thackeray; Thackeray’s Satire of Ambition and Vanity Starring One of the Best Anti-Heroines from English Literature

By Julie Sara Porter

Bookworm Reviews

Spoilers: It makes sense that one of William Makepeace Thackeray’s most important metaphors throughout his epic novel, Vanity Fair, is to compare his characters and their situations to a puppet show.

To explain the novel, I have to backtrack to Pilgrim's Progress by John Bunyan. Not too many modern Readers may be familiar with the work, but it was a Medieval allegory in which a man named Christian (Subtlety was not in a Medieval writer's repertoire) travels through various locations with names like the Valley of Humility, the Palace Beautiful, and the Slough of Respond before he reached the Celestial City (i.e. Heaven). One of those locations is Vanity Fair, a fair in which unwary travelers buy medals, gowns, fancy decorations, and sinisterly enough spouses and children all to increase their pride and vanity.

Now Pilgrim's Progress is mostly recalled by readers of Little Women who associate that book with the role playing game the March Sisters play as they wait for their father to return from the Civil War. There is even a chapter called Vanity Fair in which Meg, the eldest sister, visits some rich friends, flirts, and is the recipient of gossip.

Also the title Vanity Fair calls to mind the famous Conde Nast magazine which still features provocative fashion spreads and articles. Vanity Fair is often seen as a place where the rich, famous, and fashionable show off their wealth and style. The people who long to be a part of that world are often drawn in by their fascination with the high life and interest in material objects, wealth, and success. Sometimes they feel those obsessions control them rather than the other way around.

Thackeray took the idea of vanity controlling others by treating all of his characters like puppets on a string. They are just dangling about and have no control over their words and actions. Instead their desires to move ahead, to gain wealth, and to be loved lead them instead.
This is not a puppet show for kids that Thackeray envisioned. He saw Life as a puppet show in which people's greed, pride, selfishness, and obsession are laid out for the public to see.

By far the most interesting character in Vanity Fair is Becky Sharp. When she enters the book, she is already a saucy young lady. She leaves boarding school along with her impoverished background behind.
She told other students that she was from a wealthy family that had fallen because of hard times. In reality, she is the daughter of an “opera girl” i.e. a courtesan and an artist. Her mother died young and her father was an abusive alcoholic who left her destitute.

Becky's background gives her a creative edge to see the world differently and reshape her world to fit her needs, but it also isolates her from others. In school, she was looked upon as a charity case and was not held in as high regard as the other students. Her only friend was Amelia Sedley, a sweet naive heiress who leaves school with her.

The teachers looked down on Becky because of her background. This disregard for a childhood that downgraded her is symbolized in the moment when she is given a religious treatise as a parting gift and she responds by throwing the book out of the carriage on the way out.

Becky has no solid background, no reliance or support from institutions, and no basis for ethics and morals so she can only rely on herself. Her maxim is that she could be a better person if she had a few thousand pounds. She is willing to do anything to get money, including marry it.

Becky stays with Amelia's family temporarily until she begins work as a governess, something that she is not looking forward to. While Amelia becomes romantically involved with George Osborne and his friend, William Dobbin bears an unrequited crush on her, Becky finds a possible means into wealth through Amelia’s brother, Jos.

Jos Sedley is not a catch by any means. He is overweight, a slob, and a big drinker. But he has also arrived from India with a fortune behind him and will inherit a large sum when his father dies. So Becky is willing to overlook his flaws to wed the big green. That is, until Jos makes a fool of himself at Vauxhall Pleasure Gardens by getting drunk and making ridiculous loud emotional declarations towards Becky. The scene humiliates both Becky and Jos. A shamed hung over Jos breaks his engagement with Becky, sending her to the governess position much to her chagrin.

Becky however makes lemonade with the sour lemons in the governess job. She befriends the wealthy Crawley family, becoming an eventual confidant to their feisty opinionated and very rich aunt and catching the eye of Sir Pitt Crawley, the paterfamilias. When Sir Pitt manages to work up the courage to finally propose to Becky, Becky turns him down because well you see... she's already married to Pitt's dashing handsome son, Rawdon.

Thus continues the pattern in Becky's life where she uses her charms, style, and charisma to become the center of attention, obtain prestige, money, or romance, becomes embroiled in scandal and controversy, and is ostracized or criticized by others, but bounces back by gaining powerful acquaintances. This is noticeable for the first time when she befriends the elderly Miss Crawley, who admires her forthright humor, sauciness, and tales of scandals as long as they don't affect her family. Of course Miss Crawley's view changes when Rawdon, who was once her favorite nephew, marries Becky then Miss Crawley cuts the elopers out of her will.

Becky realizes that she made a major miscalculation when the elderly Sir Pitt dies and his older son, also named Pitt, inherits the lot. While the elder Pitt might have been crude, uncouth, and no gentleman even though he had the title of one, at least Becky could have been set for life. Instead she married Rawdon and has to get by living (as one of the chapter titles can attest) “on nothing a year.”

However, Becky is able to seduce army officials so Rawdon can get higher positions and use her looks as a mark to distract other gamblers while Rawdon cheats at card games. When they end up living in Paris and London, Becky becomes the toast of the towns wowing the gentry and nobility with her wit, beauty, and sharp intelligent, traits the increasingly dull and dim Rawdon lacks.

That is what makes Becky so alluring: her resourcefulness and cunning ability to survive any situation. During the Napoleonic Wars when Brussels is left in a panic, Becky, who lives there with Amelia and other soldier's wives, makes plans to escape.

If she gets caught when the French Army arrives, then she reasons that she will just cozy up to a French soldier to ensure her survival. This doesn't happen and she manages to flee, but not before she fleeces Jos, who is tasked with protecting his sister but leaves to save his own skin, of her horse and carriage.


Even when she is at her lowest point, Becky is never at a loss for a plan. Long after the war is over, she is caught red handed with the Marquis Steyne by her husband, accepting jewelry and expensive gifts instead of trying to get Rawdon who is imprisoned for debt, released. She insists that she was not having an affair with Steyne, but she ends up disgraced and separated from her husband. Next we see Becky, she is living the high life on the Continent as a high priced courtesan once again charming the wealthy men with her various uh..talents and attributes. She eventually ends up as a companion and presumed lover to Jos (Rawdon is exiled to a governorship at a remote island where he dies of a fever.). Jos ultimately dies, under mysterious circumstances, leaving Becky his entire fortune.

No matter what Becky does, she is the actor the instigator in her life. She seizes a situation and takes control of it. She is in contrast to the more passive receptive, Amelia. Amelia never takes charge of a situation. Instead, she waits for someone to fix it for her.

While Becky is active, an agent of change, Amelia is dependent and has things happen to her rather than taking action for herself. When her father loses his money in risky speculation, Amelia waits for George Osborne to marry her. Then after she marries George, Amelia ignores his flirtations with other women holding him onto a pedestal, even after his death in the Napoleonic Wars.

George's death leaves Amelia destitute and rather than finding her way like Becky does, Amelia surrenders her son to be raised by her wealthy father-in-law. She also receives money secretly from Dobbin who has long loved her from afar.
She never breaks her heroic image of George's memory until Becky has to admit that she and George had an affair before he died. This news finally puts Amelia into the arms of William and they marry.
Amelia is always dependent upon a man to take care of her needs and others to make decisions for her. Unlike Becky, Amelia lives in the fragile passivity that is expected of a woman of her day.

Even the way that Amelia and Becky raise their sons is a marked contrast. Becky is a very distant and neglectful mother, disdainful of Rawdon's affection for their son, Rawdon. She leaves him in the care of relatives and housekeepers. Then when she is disgraced, she abandons him entirely. Amelia is a loving and devoted mother, doting on her son George's every word and action. Since he is born after his father's death, she holds him as a living memory of his father. When she surrenders him to his grandfather, it is a true moment of heartbreak for her.

While Amelia's relationship with her son, George is touching for the modern Reader, a Reader in Thackeray's time would have a difference of opinion. In fact most wealthy parents would have favored Becky's approach and had children less as beings of devotion than as little heirs of their fortune that were best not seen or heard. Children were held more as a status symbol than as individuals in their own right.

Status is what it's all about in Vanity Fair. While Becky is held under scrutiny by other characters, in truth she is no different than anyone else in the book. All of the characters are motivated by their drives for money or position. Many of the male characters like George and Rawdon seek positions of authority. The younger members of the Crawley family wait with baited breath for older members to die do they can inherit.

Even the seemingly good characters like Amelia and William are motivated by desires that are created from their vanity. Amelia continues to hold onto her romantic view of George, despite obvious evidence that he was not the hero of her dreams. She also strings William along, even after she learns of his affection for her.

William's view of her is as a divine goddess that is perfection herself. His unrealistic view of Amelia continues as he does favors for her such as buying an expensive piano in secret and giving her money so she can be reunited with her son. Amelia and he have a relationship where he needs to admire someone and Amelia needs to be admired.

The final pages even suggest that vanity hits them even after they finally marry, when Amelia sighs that William loves his daughter more than her. She is upset that her admirer has transferred his admiration to someone else, even if that someone else is her own daughter.

It's not a surprise Becky is the way she is. In a way, she is similar to Sammy Glick in What Makes Sammy Run? By Budd Schulberg. Schulberg saw a pattern of behavior that created someone like Sammy: a second generation American immigrant who is a victim of poverty and prejudice so he schemes and hustles to get ahead because that's all he knows.

That's how Thackeray saw Becky. She is not a separate entity from the society around her. She is the society around her. All of the vanity, conceit, greed, class and social structure connived against her so she pushed back by being the most vain, the fastest, and the most infamous to get there.

The characters in Vanity Fair hang by their strings of pride and vanity controlling them. Some like Amelia continue to helplessly dangle, while some like Becky take the strings and control the show themselves.